Then and Now, what a difference.
I am 36 and things were so much different when I was younger.
I can remember when the sideshot of a breast on TV was taboo. Now you see nudity all day and night long. Commercials are geared towards sexual references. Condom ads, STD ads etc are on all day long.
It is funny how we wonder why the average age of sex is 12 years old. Kinda scary for all of you with children huh…. We wonder how that is and yet, we advertise it and shove it down their throats all day long. Mainstream media is full of sex. Our young children are exposed to this on numerous levels.
I bet they know more about sex than most of the adults that surround them.
I also think another huge contributing factor to sex and our youth is cell phones and text messaging. It is so different to talk to each other about sex through text messages. No reality there. There is no person to person connecting. It is scary and super sad how technology is desensitizing our youth. Murder, robbery, sex and drugs. It is so prevalent through technology that there is no real mystery to anything, nor fear of anything.
Sex sells and it is affective our youth in a way we should all be afraid of.
Saturday, January 16, 2010
Then and Now, what a difference.
Understanding the male mind from a woman's perspective.
I'm not sure the male mind can ever be fully understood from a woman's point of view, but I know that we can try. In order to do so we need to take a good long look at ourselves and how we function, and then realize that none of that applies to men.
Men compartmentalize their lives. Picture a tackle box. Each area of a man's life and each separate type of feeling he owns is put into separate compartments inside of that box. Often, we as women want the whole enchilada, sauce, cheese, rice beans, all put together on one plate. This is a virtual impossibility when it comes to men. You get one or the other, but not all of it at once. Bits and pieces.
Men like to be looked at as strong. They want to be reassured that they are in charge and important. We as women often do not do a very good job of reinforcing these qualities in our men. Men command respect and the position of authority, and yet they continue to ask the smallest of unimportant questions that make them seem all the less important and authoritative.
It is oddly funny that a man holds himself as a pillar of strength and yet is always seeking the approval of his mate. It is such a contradiction in itself that men think they have all the answers and yet the answers they have are the one's they receive from their wives. The simplest of decisions as where to go for dinner or what to do on date night. So often men do not make those choices and yet they are the MAN.
I think the only way to truly understand the male mind is to have the knowledge that the male mind needs to be fed. The male mind needs to be told how great he is, how needed he is and how much we cannot do without him. The male mind lives under the perception that he is great, strong, powerful and needed. Yet he consistently needs to be reassured of those values in order for them to be real.
The only way to understand the male mind is to know that they truly need women in their lives. Men need women to reassure them of all the things they think they are. They need women to help them balance out their machismo with reality.
Although they need women, we women need to understand that they do need reassurance and respect.
Women function with comfort, men function with reassurance.
In order to make relationships work between the two, the woman must be the one to understand her role in the relationship. It does not matter how much you love your man, how much sex you have, if you do not show him respect and continually reassure him of his manhood, the relationship will fail.
Simplistic... the male mind needs to be reassured.
Friday, November 27, 2009
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Sunday, April 26, 2009
So...we thought we were getting it under wraps when we limited the texting and the phone time to an hour a day. In a way, I think it made it just a little bit worse.
My girlfriend and her 4 boys, my godchildren, came over on Saturday. Just a little BBQ and some Apples to Apples....BTW, if you do not own this game, go out and buy it. You will have a great laugh.
Since people were over, Nathaniel decided to ask if his girlfriend could come over as well. No biggie. However, they seemed a bit too clinging. A few times I literally told him to remove his hands from her. Nothing that bad, just too close for my comfort.
All the kids went to the park, took skateboards etc...And low and behold, we didn't find out until this am...His skateboard is gone. Vanished, no where to be seen. Mind you, this is his prize possession. He loves this long board. He better for $300.00.
turn out, Sage gave it to him to carry home. He was too engrossed in his girlfriend that he gave it to his god brother to bring home. It came home, never made it in the house. Someone got sidetracked...No one realized until this am when he went to go get it to ride. And it is gone.
He was devastated and wanted to blame everyone but himself. I think heknew he should have been a bit more responsible with something he loved...But he was too busy walking his girlfriend inside and thinking someone else would take care of it.
So, we now have limited the time he has with her. She is a good girl, but he is just too involved at his point in his life, All he can focus on is her. And I'm just not ready for him to give up living his life and enjoying it to its fullest potential.
I'm sad, angry, upset and bummed out. It is hard to implement these types of rules. At the same time that I blame him for the skateboard, I am torn because I feel so utterly bad for his loss. Motherhood is rough!